Dating Pointer for Shy Males
It goes without saying that taking a girl out can be a nerve-wracking experience. Many women think this simple act comes so easy to men, but the truth is the very thought leaves many men shaking in their boots. And some men think the same thing, looking at other seemingly more confident men and wondering what is it that they have that makes dating women seem so easy?
The truth is if that scenario sounds all too familiar, rest assured those men don't have anything more than you do. If you fall on the shyer side of things when it comes to dating, use these handy dating tips for shy guys and sooner than later you too will be able to enjoy the fun and excitement that comes with dating. When you are shy, even!
When you think of yourself as the guy who is never going to get her, that's exactly how you are going to come across. Stop thinking of yourself that way.
â�¢ Remember that you have "nice" on your side. Nice guys don't actually finish last; they finish first, which is why her No. 1 complaint is that all the nice guys are already married. Prove her wrong.
If you have shy on your side, then you also have nice on your side, which means you will be really good at all of those sweet little things that will sweep her off her feet. If you are trying to get her to notice you, do one of those nice, sweet little things that will have her noticing you sooner than you think. Consider it the 21st-century means of carrying her books for her.
When you are on the date with the girl, make sure that you maintain eye contact while you are chatting with her. She will think you are one of the most attentive and sweetest men that she has met if you just make and listen eye contact.
â�¢ Stay in your comfort zone. Ask out the women who are already in the places you are familiar with when it comes to meeting women. This will help your confidence level, and if they already know you or know who you are, they might be more inclined to go out with you.
Informal open-ended activities where there is plenty to look at and do, such as an open-air market or fair, are great ice breakers for a first date because conversation flows organically. Many people think dinner is a great first date, but it actually is a tough one because you are forced to make conversation with someone you don't know very well.
â�¢ Have conversation starters ready before the date. You may never use them, but if you have them, then at least you have a small insurance policy in your head before the date actually arrives.
The nerves before a date with a girl are the worst part of the entire date, but if you can prepare yourself beforehand, you will not feel so lost during the date. Women do like to talk, so if she is filling up the chatty space, then take that as a good sign that she likes you too, so much so that she wants you to know everything.
â�¢ Prepare, but don't rehearse. You don't want to look like you are trying too hard, but you also don't want to look like you don't have a clue how to be on a date. Visualize conversations with her in your head with your conversation starters, but don't practice them verbatim.
â�¢ Remember that she's human too. Because they find it difficult to approach women that this must mean most women are unapproachable, shy men think that. That is simply not the case.
Women are just as human as anybody, and the last thing a good woman wants is for a man to feel uncomfortable around her. Remember that your date is just as human as you, and she would probably be touched to find out that you were even nervous around her at all. Just relax, and make the day all about her, and when she knows how much trouble you went to in order to do that, she will do everything she can to make you feel as comfortable as possible.
The Bottom Line:
The bottom line is that most shy men are their own worst enemies when it comes to dating tips for shy men. They psych themselves out thinking they don't stand a chance, when the truth is that the sweetest, nicest girl is probably just waiting for them to ask her out. Just relax and prepare yourself as much as you can beforehand, without over rehearsing the process.